Friends can make life a pleasant journey, an exciting journey but sometimes they can zap all your energy. We all make a friend or many as we go along, from school to college and in everyday life but it is good to know which friends to keep and which need to go. As we grow up, we change perspective, we change our lifestyles and inevitably we change our friends. It happens when we grow and mentally explore different approaches to life that we sometimes find that certain people no longer fit into our lives as they did before. This can be difficult to accept and even more difficult to deal with. Letting go is not an easy process but it may be one that is holding you back from living your best life.
Many of us can relate to this problem when it comes to family and of course the old adage comes to mind, “You can’t choose your family”. Well this is true but it does not mean you can choose how you react to them and how much time you spend with them. The same can be applied to friends. There are some friends that are really understanding and caring and offer you support in times of need but at the same time they could also spend many hours complaining to you about how their life is sad and everything is wrong. Yes, we all have these days ourselves, we need to let it out and our friends are usually the ones we turn to and that’s quite alright. The problem comes in when these occasional days turn into every day.
If you feel someone in your life is bringing you energy zapping and negative behaviour most of the time then it is time to reassess that relationship. Ultimately what you let into your life and what you let into your mind is what you will cultivate so there should be no place for constant draining energy from those closest to you even if it means letting go of these people. Being strict about the energy you allow around you needs to be priority if you want to lead a positive life and grow strong healthy relationships. Letting go of people that do not serve your cause leaves you with time and energy to strengthen those relationships that matter.
Here is the thought that enters our minds when we think of a dear friend who no longer fits into our life, “we have been through so much together” or “she was there for me when I needed her”. These are the thoughts that make us feel guilty about letting go and cutting people out of our lives completely and here’s what we need to learn, live in the now. This in no way means we should forget all that has happened and who was there when it did. People change and as we grow, we realise there are some things we no longer need and some people who no longer bring the same things into our lives. There is nothing wrong with choosing to end these friendships and relationships because they no longer bring positive energy into your world. If you cannot end a relationship then simply limit your time spent with the person. In the end it is simple, your mind, thoughts and actions are the only things you have control of and if you want a life of goodness, positivity and gratitude then you should be inviting experiences and people of this nature, nothing less.
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