‘Surrendering’, that is what a friend told me is her hubby’s ‘bedroom slang’. She said that when other men would rather beg their women to let them ‘enter’, her man tells her ‘surrender baby, baby surrender to me’-such that the night she wore a night wear that he bought her from his travels, she had hardly settled on bed when he walked into the bedroom and told her that the particular way she lay on the bed is a ‘surrendering position’.
They had an outing recently, she waited to hear his comment on her dressing, and when it was not forthcoming, she whispered ‘’don’t I look surrendering enough’’ in his ear. He had a good laugh and told her that- that will be a matter to be decided at the appropriate place…the bedroom. She told me that these days when she wants to tease him (especially when he is looking good), she just says ‘’you look surrendering’’…it never ceases to leave a smile on his face. It’s so lovely when a couple have ‘special words’ that are just ‘personal’ to them. Something you can always tease each other with and nobody can guess how you both came about such ‘special words’.
That is what I call ‘creating memories’ in a relationship…those funs, silly and playful things you indulge in. Life can’t be more beautiful than when couples learn to approach a relationship with the right amount of playfulness. It’s no surprise that researchers have found that singles rank “sense of humor” at or near the top qualities they want in a mate. Couples who can be playful together—as well as goofy, childlike, and quirky—have the ability to be real together. Anyone can be passionate, but it takes real lovers to be silly .
A healthy relationship is one, that has a great dose of playfulness and silliness and that is also the kind of union that delights thoroughly. A girlfriend told me that during an argument with her man, he pronounced a particular English word wrongly and the laughter that ensued (because of that error) thawed the tension that was almost building up between them-as a result of that argument.
Till this day, the mere hearing of that word (anywhere) gives them a good laugh. While at a cinema recently, the same word was pronounced (correctly) by a character in the movie (they were watching) and she leaned closer to whisper ‘their own version’ of the word- in his ears…the loud laughter that greeted the ‘whisper’ attracted a few bemused glances their way. Can anything be more beautiful than the sight of a giggling (and loudly too) couple? How much playfulness have you made efforts to inject into your marriage?
Has it become ‘all seriousness’ and bickering or quarrels galore? Let me tell you a secret… sex or money is not always the motive that drives a cheating partner into the arms of another man/woman. Sometimes, it is the laughter/warmth that they find in such arms!!!
Having a lighthearted approach to life and love makes for happy individuals—and of course happy individuals make happy romantic couples. It’s no wonder the book of Proverbs shared this wisdom “A happy heart is good medicine and a cheerful mind works healing, but a broken spirit dries up the bones.”
It is your choice to make anything (nagging, cold demeanour, sour face, rigidity etc.) but fun and laughter a regular occurrence in your union. Just remember that ‘’if you are happy, happiness will come to you because happiness wants to go where happiness is ‘’ Yogi Bhajan
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